One of the biggest misconceptions about couples therapy is that seeking help means you are failing in your relationship, yet when an individual carries out professional development for their carer, we don’t question it. To get a job, we carry out preliminary training, an apprenticeship, a course or a university degree and we are applauded for the accomplishment. Yet when it comes to being in relationship or raising children, we’re expected to just know how to do it. So reaching out for support from a competent couples therapist could in fact, be one of the wisest choices you ever make for your relationship and instead of being associated with failure or pathologising, it may instead be a sign of responsibility, expansion and positive growth – something we should feel proud of accessing.